A lot of conservative people in society find it strange and unusual seeing a ‘straight’ guy and a girl totally not related by blood hugging and hanging out totally at ease with each other. Yet they are not in any intimate or dating relationship. To him, she is his sister and to her, he is her brother. They are best of friends and although they are not related by blood, they are “family”.
I have had so many narrow-minded people come up to me countless times and enquire about my relationship with one of my many close guy friends. Depending on their approach I respond either defensively, angrily or amusingly and most times utterly disgusted by the workings of their minds.
Personally, I grew up always wishing for a male sibling around the same age as myself because unlike my two-years-older sister, I was a little tomboyish playful brat badly longing for a full-time playmate. Instead, my parents gave me my long-awaited male sibling five years later. Aaarggh!!! Now we were never going to be on the same page for long enough! This meant I would be the first to lose interest in the things we did together as I progressed with age finding new interests and then five years later, he would eventually catch up! Then the cycle would repeat itself all over again!
It is no wonder that today my friends-scale-by-gender tips kind of unfairly toward the male side. I am a girl who has more close guy-friends than close girlfriends and I treasure and love them all as my brothers and sisters. They are not like an extended family, mind you, but they are like a part of my immediate family to me because together we share so much and know each other so well. So what is my usual reply when someone takes my relationship with one of my brothers for something that it is not?
Honestly feeling like the most fortunate girl in the world, I reply with a smile, “I couldn’t have asked for a more special person in my life. Yes, he is more than just a friend to me. He is my best friend but most importantly, he is my brother and blood cannot make us any closer”.